16 YEARS OLD DAUGHTER TOLD HER SINGLE MOM TO MAKE PLANS FOR HER RETIREMENT SO AS NOT TO CONSTITUTE BURDEN TO HER IN HER OLD AGE

 

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As ADAOBI wrote:

So a sixteen year old daughter told her all-sacrificing -single-mom recently to make retirement plans, because she would not be bugged down with the burden of caring for her in old age. This, the teenager read from online Nigerian youngsters, who make similar declarations.

Now, this broke the woman's heart, and made her consider altering the plans for university education she has for the teenager. She wants to save up on her humble earnings and build, so she'd at least have a home and warmth in old age.

What do you think?

Prof Duru wrote: If she abandons her training NOW, then the young girls plan will be fulfilled in future. Me and my siblings take care of our mother as papa is late now. On her own she would never ask you for anything. She expects us to know her essential needs. One day I asked her: "Mama why is it you never on your own ask for anything?". She said if we her children allow her to wear worn out and tattered clothes, the SHAME is ours not hers. She is CORRECT.

Ike-Eluigwe wrote: Let the woman sit her down. At her age, she is old enough to reason. Let her know that as it is not compulsory for her to take care of her mother in old age, that it is also not compulsory for her mother to take care of her now. Let her be shown the millions of children who are out of school and fending for themselves. Let her be shown the dangers of this and how most of those children end. After these, let her know that resources are scarce and may not provide for fending for her and still reserving some for retirement. Let her know that the earlier arrangement was to use the resources to equip her and that when she would have been equipped, she would return the favour be taking care of her woman in old age. After this, make a proposal: to continue plans as earlier intended (that is, to continue fending for her with the understanding that she would return the favour) or to abandon that earlier plan (that is, that she would henceforth take absolutely care of her needs while her mom focuses on her retirement plans). Let her not give an answer immediately. Tell her to take some days to think of it and let her know that whatever agreed would be signed with a witness.

Even though you may not intend to carry these out to the later, don't give that impression. The woman would have forced this teenager to think deeply through this and would likely end up seeing the stark selfishness and folly in her statement.

Prof. Afamelune wrote: It is a hard question for the emotional one yet so simple for the rational. That girl is young impressionable and a product of her toxic association. Social media just like the Internet is a double edged sword. 

She will grow out of her egoism and realize that mom is the greatest gift to a child. Infact mom is a god to her child.

If she has the means, let her train her child. As a doting parent if she plants it, it will grow. she will then reap in bountifully her fruit of labour.

Others said she shouldn't bother training the girl at all. While many are blaming social media influence.

There are numerous submission but these seems to be more striking and generated more reactions. You can leave yours and also share so others might learn. Thank you.

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